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Challenging Relationships


Bernhardt, B. C., & Singer, T. (2012). The neural basis of empathy. Annual review of neuroscience35, 1–23.

Klimecki, O. M., Leiberg, S., Ricard, M., & Singer, T. (2014). Differential pattern of functional brain plasticity after compassion and empathy training. Social cognitive and affective neuroscience9(6), 873–879. doi: 10.1093/scan/nst060

Woodruff, L (2019, September 17) Caregiving’s impact on intimacy AARP Family Caregiving

Zaki, J. (2015, October 20) Choosing Empathy. Edge  (Transcript)​


The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace
Jack Kornfield, 2008, Bantam

Practices for bringing healing, peace, and compassion into our daily lives. These practices offer simple ways to meet life’s greatest challenges with acceptance and hope.

Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness
Fred Luskin, 2003, HarperOne

Through vivid examples, Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (3rd edition)
Marshall Rosenberg, 2015, PuddleDancer Presss

Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to do three things:
• Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
• Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships
• Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit

Love in the Time of Chronic Ilness
Barbara Kivowitz and Roanne Weisman, 2018, Rare Bird Books

Love in the Time of Chronic Illness examines what happens when illness becomes part of a relationship, and includes dozens of real couples' frank stories about navigating the medical and relational mazes. These stories, along with practical and thoughtful guidance from a variety of experts in the medical, spiritual, and legal realms, help partners not just get through a crisis, but grow stronger as a couple.


Aspiration about listening and compassion by Thich Nhat HanhNURSE Statements for articulating empathy (VitalTalk)

Poem: If Prayer Would Do It by Stephen Levine

Metta (Wishes for Well-Being) for Caregivers From Roshi Joan Halifax and Sharon Salzburg

Video Clips

#Empathy explained by Matthieu Ricard Shining Hope Foundation. (2013, May 11) YouTube: Matthieu Ricard shares his thoughts on empathy. Video creation/edition by varialstudio

Brene´ Brown on Empathy (animated) RSA. (2013, December 10) YouTube: Difference between empathy and sympathy

The Practice and Power of Forgiving, Manny’s (2022, Mar 24) YouTube: Fred Luskin’s informal talk about the power of forgiveness


Other resources

Bay Area End of Life Doula Alliance

Caring Bridge is free website that you can use as a personal journal to share with anyone you wish.  It’s an easy way to provide periodic health updates without having to initiate conversations with a lot of different people.   

Go Wish Cards: Advance Care planning card game; Conversation starter.  You can also plan online.

Greater Good Science Center (GGSC) an online magazine of brief user-friendly articles about science based insights for a meaningful life developed at UC Berkeley 

Lotsa Helping Hands is another free website which also helps a friend or family member coordinate people to give rides or bring meals. 

MERI Center's Palliative Care Resource Page & Advance Care Planning Resource

What Works For Me?  List of practices from Sustainable Caregiving Workshop